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“My board named me CEO”
— Claudia Freed, President & CEO Educational Assistance Ltd.
Are you an established executive who is an agent for change?
Be a Change Agent
“I am now finding executive roles”
-Chris Gyori, MBA, Marketing Executive and Sustainability Consultant in the UK
Are you ready to express your own authentic leadership style?
“I had my first month where I earned over $11,000 in my own business.”
-Flame Schoeder, Professionally Certified Coach
Are you ready to earn more money in your business?Be Transformed
“I am now a more caring and a more strategic decision maker”
—John Mulrow, Emerging Non-Profit Leader
Are you a rising star?Rise Up
YOU + ME = A POWERFUL TEAM
Together, let’s design a program that will be the foundation of your success for years to come.
How do we work toward your own soul-satisfying results?
One conversation at a time.
By your Side,
Flame Schoeder Professionally Certified Coach http://CoachFlame.com
A year with Patrick is a big deal. He has mentored me for several years and my practice is more fun, more profitable, and a bigger contribution that ever before. I’m happy to report I had my first month where I earned $11,000.
Claudia Freed President & CEO of Educational Assistance Limited http://InventoryDonations.org
Patrick’s style and experience in taking rising stars go from leader to LEADER was immediately apparent to me. My life is living proof of the positive impact Patrick has. I want to share his gift with others.
Anne Hindery Chief Executive Officer, Nonprofit Association of the Midlands http://nonprofitam.org
Through various positions in the non-profit world Patrick has provided a safe space for me to polish both my personal and professional goals.
John Mulrow Consultant and interim executive director http://plantchicago.org
As a first-time executive director, Patrick helped me face a challenging interview process and the daily trials of leading a small but complex organization.
“It is very loving to see how my parents ‘being’ has continued in the world through me.” – a friend who completed the Career Genealogy Process
Being successful in work and life is a bold process that looks different for each individual. Whether coaching a real estate agent, a lawyer, a stay-at-home dad or a young business woman there are some common components that can bring clarity and focus to career decisions.
One component is to reflect upon the attributes that you’ve inherited from your ancestors using the four steps to your Career Genealogy. This process provides a a way to identify key themes that shape and inform your own choices. Upon using this process to make your strengths conscious, you may join the many individuals who report that they feel better equipped to face the uncertain complexities of their careers.
One woman who used this process did not at first see any connection between her dad’s work as a plumber and her work as a nurse. Trusting the process of these steps, she began to focus less on what separated her from the previous generation and more on what connected her to them. She had a moment of realization that clarified the next step she was to take in life.
After ten years of conversations with many people completing the Career Genealogy process, we have discovered many things. To make this process concrete, I will share the example of one friend who is willing to make her story public.
Step One of Your Career Genealogy
First identify the name of your two primary caregivers who shaped your life while growing up. Who are the two individuals you experienced as your primary caregivers? Trust your common sense to identify two names that work for you. (Note: This process works for non-traditional families in case you were adopted, in foster care or if you have been a member of blended families with more than one parent, stepparents, grandparents or other adults who raised you. In this case you get to choose two adults from your village that make the most sense to you.)
A Friend’s Example
On a sheet of paper or in your journal can you see your own example?
Step Two of Your Career Genealogy
Now that you have identified two individuals, research their career story. Under each name can you identify the major roles that they contributed to society? Even if they did not think of their work as a career or they didn’t get paid, make sure to honor their unique contributions as volunteers or as caregivers to the family. You may even consider hobbies that help you see their strengths.
A Friend’s Example
Vincent: Engineer (ships during WW II, then bridges and highways), manage a power plant, community leader (PTA, Board of Education and Knights of Columbus).
Elena: Mother, brownie and scout leader ,vocalist (church choir, weddings and funerals), LPN, a nurse, community volunteer (meals on wheels, hospice, crisis line, food pantry).
You may pause again and build on the two names you identified and briefly outline the “resume” of roles that describe their work or volunteer experiences.
Step Three of Your Career Genealogy
What were the intended outcomes and fruits of these efforts? Now, pause and come up with some key words to characterize the key themes of their life’s work. You may want to take a walk, listen to music or just sit in silence and contemplate how to best briefly summarize the contribution of their lives.
It can be interesting and fun to synthesize someone’s life work into a few key words. If any part of this process feels confusing at first, many clients report coming up with some new perspectives after they pause and lean into the confusion. Find your own way to ponder the question, “What were the intended outcomes and fruits of their efforts?” Beyond this temporary feeling of confusion is often a break through where clients start to see something new about two people who they haven’t always observed through an objective lens.
At times we are so busy analyzing our family tree for psychological issues that we focus on the negative. We rarely pause and see the intended contribution of our ancestors. In some cases their intentions were realized and they felt successful. In other seasons of life, they may have felt frustrated and their strengths were not always fully demonstrated. Whatever the case, we are here to see the intended contribution and strengths that they made or hoped to make to the world. Seeing these attributes can be akin to identifying your own emotional and spiritual DNA.
In the example of this friend, she paused and listened to music before the key words occurred to her. Others may find it helpful to speak with someone in order to gain a more objective view of these two individuals. Unlike other conversations we may have about these two parental figures, this a positive inquiry into their strengths and not their weaknesses.
A Friend’s Example:
Vincent: Design and Create Elena: Protect and Love
Are there key themes you can identify?
Step Four of Your Career Genealogy
Finally, this is where you turn these statements inward and look at your own contribution to life. Ask yourself the question, “How have I built upon this emotional and spiritual inheritance?” Begin exploring on paper how you have applied these strengths to your own life’s work. Again, you might find it helpful to also speak with another person who is skilled at being a good listener. What is your own unique synthesis of these themes?
A Friends Example
Today, this friend sees that the unique educational programs she has created are all extensions of strengths from both of her parents. Her life’s work is a unique combination of her dad’s focus as an engineer and her mom’s focus as a caregiver. She has spent her life ENGINEERING EDUCATIONAL EXPERIENCES FOR CAREGIVERS! The qualities that her parents demonstrated in these two different professions are ones that she has integrated in a unique way. In her own words she says:
“What I saw within myself was the capacity to Design + Create (from my father) and to Protect + Love (from my mother). All together this is the work I have done in creating a college of healing arts.”
She goes on to say, “It is very loving to see how my parents ‘being’ can continue in the world for others through me.”
The woman in this example is Paulette Genthon. Since 1994, I have had the privilege of supporting and guiding her toward realizing her dreams. Recently, we’ve been designing a creative student engagement and retention program for her college.
Paulette is the founder of the Universal College of Healing Arts where she has used the Career Genealogy process to empower herself and her students to celebrate their strengths. With the foundation her programs offer professionals, she has empowered hundreds of individuals to realize successful careers in the healing arts.
Paulette’s unique program makes education accessible to busy adults. If you are interested in joining her weekend intensives you may want to speak with her. She may be reached at: (402) 555-4456. Or, you may e-mail her at: [email protected].
Whatever you see about your own career inheritance, I’m interested in hearing about your experience via e-mail, phone or Skype as well.
By your side,
Patrick Davis, MA, PCC
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I inherited dad’s work gloves when they were lying in his workshop after he died. Feeling nostalgic, I wanted their gritty smell of sawdust and grease close by. His gloves reminded me of his presence and of his “get it done” attitude.
Recently, the gloves shifted from being sentimental adornments on a shelf of a downtown apartment into essential tools for tackling the overgrown yard of our new home. I began wearing these “get it done gloves” each morning to pull out the brush and poison ivy that had taken over the beautiful gardens when the previous owner had a sudden health-altering event that placed her in a nursing home. The woman who occupied this place loved these grounds and they are ready to be loved again.
This June has been filled with the activity of beginning to care for a yard and home that are hugged by a wooded community called Forest Heights in Knoxville, Tennessee. We are now the stewards of a home built in the 1940’s that stands on a corner lot filled with trees and all sorts of plants with names I’m learning to pronounce.
It’s strange how falling in love with a new place has a way of choosing your hobbies and your work for you. By the time dad was my age, he had also fallen in love with a place that created for him a full-time hobby when our family moved from the suburbs to a forty-acre hobby farm outside Grand Rapids, Michigan in the township of Wayland. I now realize that the term “hobby farm” is a polite way to say, “this place needs a lot of work.” While we are not taking care of forty acres, the same “get it done” principle of effort and determination applies.
Today, we are gardeners and find ourselves building on the legacy of our fathers by learning to become handy around the house. Since my husband is a social worker and I’m an educator and coach, we both have more practice working with the mind and emotions than with wires, pipes, chain saws and dirt.
Let the good times begin!
The aches and pains and itchy arms from poison ivy have changed something in our psyche that reflects both the challenges and joys that we face in this garden each day. Isn’t that the way it is with your life?
Applying your own sweat and effort to this project called life, you experience how gardens are weeded and made beautiful again–how work gets done in the world–only after you “put your work gloves on” and direct your “get it done” attitude toward the goals you love and the people you love.
Mindful conversations, whether with a therapist, coach or skilled friend, have a way of sending a message to the brain that is like “putting your work gloves on.” No matter what challenge you face—career change, depression, growing a business, anxiety, making a big decision, facing loss—there is a capacity within you to make this subtle shift. I promise. Even if it’s just pulling one weed, there is something that is yours to do each day.
By your side as you get it done,
Patrick Davis, MA, PCC, HB
“Work is love made visible”-Kahlil Gibran
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Just like putting on 3D glasses changes your depth perception at a movie, there are Four Disciplines (4 D’s) that can radically change how you perceive the events of your life. Living your life in 4D is a playful reminder to find your own unique way to explore four ancient disciplines in a modern context.
As you practice each of the 4 D’s you will gradually see three things occur:
Living Your Life in 4D is a holistic framework that supports you in managing life’s ups and downs. Who doesn’t need that?
We all feel the tug between doing more and being more present in the life we already inhabit. Living Your Life in 4D offers ways to dance with this lifelong challenge:
Through the example set by these humble practitioners can you begin to see ways that you may gain access to an inner quietude while leading an active life?
The fruit born from these simple practices varies from person to person. Some report feeling more peaceful during stressful interactions or feeling more grounded during routine meetings and tasks. Others report being more flexible when called upon to solve a complex problem. The 4D’s are:
There is nothing radical or new about these habits. How you adapt them to life within the fast pace of the 21st century is the trick. Even though the benefits are self evident, carving out time for these valuable practices isn’t always easy.
Implementing these disciplines calls upon your capacity to be resourceful. The point of bringing quiet reflection into your daily life is not to practice all of these principles with saintly perfection. The point is to make small, incremental changes that demonstrate progress over time.
Why not start by leaning into just one of these disciplines? Building upon one approach that you have already practiced is a good place to start. If, for example, you enjoyed keeping a journal in high school, you may want to return to that approach again. Consider which centering activities open your heart and blow your mind. What approach makes you naturally curious? Is it music, dancing, nature or fellowship with others? It can be supportive to seek out and surround yourself with people on the same path.
Have fun! Experiment and commit to exploring the activity you’ve chosen for the next thirty days. See what happens. Think of it as though you are being asked out on a date – by your own heart. Your job is to simply say, “yes” to the invitation.
Are you curious to see what happens when you say “yes” to your heart’s invitation? Are you ready to spend just a little more time in quietude? If so, you may enjoy Living Your Life in 4D!
By Your Side as You Polish Your Heart,
Patrick Davis, MA, PCC, HB
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